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Muslim Community Building – Chicago

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No, no proselytizing, everything is done through our actions, we want to show as Muslims we are compassionate, we are merciful, that is part of the Prophetic model, we wanna show that wherever we are we can serve and we can serve to the best of our ability.

“They make a tremendous difference… They have made it a better community, and the little that they do turns in to a lot” The first time I met him he said “man, can I come inside?”

He went in to the synagogue, then a few months later he called

“Ramadan is coming up, and I was hoping you wouldn’t mind hosting the Muslims in our community for iftar”

I said“I don’t see why not”

“A lot of people say you always say Islam is peace, but we don’t see that – well this makes them see that.”

Ya Allah let us be the change, let us take these role models, and be influences for good within our communities.

This is the type of organisation NILC aims to be, making a real sustained difference to the people within our community. Supporting them, encouraging them, being the catalyst for change for the better.

Help us do this by attending our events, volunteering or donating!

Love for others as you love for yourself! – Shaykh Sulaiman Ghani

Shaytaan will not only come to those who are already far from deen.

He will target every person.

You are starting and doing the way of dawah, but he will not leave you.

We have the example of ibn Basisa.

One thing leads to another.

Mehdi Hasan blasts Islamophobes in Oxford University Debate

Mehdi Hasan blasts Islamophobes in Oxford University Debateby ABDULLAH AL ANDALUSI • JULY 4, 2013On the 23rd May 2013, the Oxford Union held a debate entitled ‘The House Believes Islam is a Religion of Peace’ between three speakers arguing for the motion, and three speakers arguing against the motion.The speakers spoke in this order:[For] MATTHEW HANDLEY, Student from St Hugh’s College, Oxford[Against] ANNE-MARIE WATERS –  A prominent journalist and campaigner, and is a member of the Labour Party.[For] ADAM DEEN – Muslim Speaker and Debater[Against] DANIEL JOHNSTON – journalist and editor of magazine Standpoint[For] MEHDI HASAN –  Britain’s most prominent Muslim journalist. Political editor of the Huffington Post.[Against] PETER ATKINS is former Professor of Chemistry at the University of Oxford and now a fellow of Lincoln College.I watched the debate, and found Mehdi Hasan’s performance to be striking and compelling. He lambasts the Islam-critical opposition, and brings some common sense refutations of their misguided argument in his inimitable entertaining style. A good example of a Muslim engaging with Islamophobic critique and making a palpable case for Islam being a religion of peace. I’ve included the video of his part of the debate below (videos of the other speakers can be found on the same channel). Enjoy:

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There is no Marital Rape in Islam

There is no Marital Rape in Islam.Image

That’s it.

There is no concept of marital rape in Islam.

In Islam Rape is a crime of Zina, which refers to extramarital or pre marital sex.

Within marriage there is no extramarital or premarital intercourse by definition.

Therefore there can be no marital zina.

No marital rape.

Zina can also mean other things;

The eyes commit Zina, the hands commit Zina and feet commit Zina and the genitals commit Zina.” (Musnad Ahmad, Hadith no. 4258)

Which means there can be Zina in lustful gazes, thoughts, or without full intercourse.

The word Rape in English is much broader, it refers to “a type of sexual assault usually involving sexual intercourse, which is initiated by one or more persons against another person without that person’s consent. The act may be carried out by physical force, coercion, abuse of authority or with a person who is incapable of valid consent, such as one who is unconscious, incapacitated, or below the legal age of consent

There is no concept of marriage within this current definition.

However within Islam there can be illegal intercourse within marriage. Such as intercourse during menses, during obligatory fast or intercourse which will harm the woman, due to illness, infection and so on

So although there can be no zina in Islamic marriage. There can be illegal intercourse. Which in English translates as rape.

Still with me?

There can also be assault within an Islamic marriage.

Therefore the man who forces his wife to have sex can be guilty of assault on his wife.

Now, many will be saying a woman should not be refusing her husband, so he shouldn’t have to force her based on the hadith;

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a man calls his wife to his bed, and she refuses to come, the angels curse her until morning comes.”

Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3065; Muslim, 1436.

However this is simplifying the situation and ignoring some other rulings. It has to be understood that out of context the rulings of shariah don’t work. They only work when applied together in its entirety. A demonstration of this is arranged marriages work if the parents are looking out for best interest of kids as per Islam, but if they are more bothered about status and debts and other stuff it doesn’t work for the best of all involved.

firstly –  ”al-Fataawa al-Islamiyyah, 3/145, 146 

It is not permissible for a husband to force his wife to do more than she is able to bear of intercourse. If she has an excuse such as being sick or unable to bear it, then she is not sinning if she refuses to have intercourse”

Secondly – This is ignoring the nature of an abuser. That is not the fault of who ever brings the argument that a woman shouldn’t be saying no,as they are normal, reasonable human beings.

In a normal marriage women say no, men say no, neither are upset, the husband who loves his wife and cares about her akhirah wouldn’t be angry with her, as he wouldn’t want the angels to curse her.

In an abusive marriage the husband does not force the woman because she does not give him intercourse. This is a misunderstanding. according to Shariah if the husband wants more sex then the wife they should come to an agreement.

“Because there are no sharee’ah courts nowadays in your country, the wife should try to come to an agreement with her husband on this matter, so she should speak to him frankly and remind him of the verses and ahaadeeth that command the husband to be kind to his wife. She should explain to him that she is only refusing because of the harm that is being caused to her, and that she is very keen to obey him and respond to his desires.”

and often women in abusive marriages do go willingly to their husbands. That is why they are still in the marriage. Because they want to make it work. They are trying. They love their husbands. They try everything, even making agreements with a man who is forcing them to have sex on how often they will be intimate.

This will not stop a rapist raping his wife. Even if she had consensual intercourse with him a few hours previously, he will still force her, hold her down. There is no concept of the woman responding to his call, as he will not even call, or give her a chance to respond. He will just take what he wants.

He will not do this out of desire that is natural. He will do this out of a desire to control, humiliate,  degrade, make his wives life difficult. Rape is not a crime of passion.

Will you say then the woman is sinful as she didn’t fulfil her husbands rights willingly?

and we have to remember The husband has to fear Allaah with regard to his wife, and not make her do more than she is able to do. He should be kind to his wife and treat her in a reasonable manner.

In the Prophet sallalahu allayhi wa salaams last sermon He sas emphasised good treatment of women, in his last days he wanted his Ummah to remember;

“Fear Allah concerning women! Verily you have taken them on the security of Allah, and intercourse with them has been made lawful unto you by words of Allah.”

and he sallalahu allayhi wa salaam also said

The most perfect amongst the believers in faith is one who has the best manners and best of you are those who are best to their wives.”

(Musnad Ahmad)

So how does the treatment of ones wives when a man forces her to have sex come in to agreement with the above hadith?

Also, we need to educate men a bit about female anatomy. This may be offensive but;

“When we turn to our own classical works, we find that sexual conduct has been mentioned in
numerous books. Every single work of fiqh has chapters related to sex. Every explanation of
hadith, every tafsir of the Qur’aan, must by its very nature deal with matters pertaining to sexuality. Additionally, throughout our own fourteen centuries of tradition and history, there have been
many books written to help couples find more meaningful relationships and increase sexual pleasure within marriage. These works are many times quite explicit, but hardly ever crude or vulgar.
And I believe that we can learn much from their language and style.”

http://d1.islamhouse.com/data/en/ih_books/single/en_Like_A_Garment.pdf

So, a woman does not walk around in a state with a gap between her thighs. There is a closed wall of muscle there. If it is forced open it will hurt and bruise. Even if a man forcing his wife does not leave bruises and marks externally, and one says, she has not been harmed by my actions, there are no marks on her, the act of forcing a woman who is not ready or prepared will harm her and bruise her internally.

That is not even considering the emotional affect on the woman. In Islam a woman’s fitrah is to be emotional. Emotions effect the woman’s ability to do things in ways they don’t effect a mans.

So, there is no Marital rape in Islam.

for further info read http://islamqa.info/en/ref/9602

http://www.mumsnet.com/campaigns/we-believe-you-campaign-rape-myths-busted

if you are a muslim woman being effected by Domestic violence, please contact Nour DV http://nour-dv.org.uk/ or national zakat foundation http://www.nzf.org.uk/ if you contact me on fb I can put you in contact with people in these organisations if you like.

Do not suffer in silence, we are one Ummah, you are my sister, if you hurt I hurt too.Image

p.s Although the legal definition of rape and assault has changed with time, and marital rape was only criminalised recently in the west, marital assault and being good to your wife have always been important parts of Islam. Islamic standards do not change according to time or the changing whims of society, but remain constant inshallah.

 

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Ramadan – The month of Victory

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Many of us may know that Ramadan is a month of blessing, a month of reward and a month of fasting. However, many of us may not know that Ramadan was a month of victory in which Allah (swt) blessed the Ummah with conquests on the battlefield.

Why know the Ummah’s history?

– remember, reflect upon and learn from past examples

– Lessons for the future.

– An example for us.

Key events during Ramadan

Battle of Badr – 17th Ramadan 3 A.H

–          The Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam and 313 of his companions set out to intercept a caravan of their own goods that had been left in Makkah.

–          Led by Abu Sufyan ,50,000 dinars.

–          Instead met by army of Quraish,

–          Outnumbered three to one and appearing weak and unseasoned.

–           Allah gave them a decisive victory on this day of Ramadan that would never be forgotten.

–          First Battle of the Muslims. Won although outnumbered and out armed and fasting.

Wadi al – Qura 6 A.H.

–           Zaid ibn Haritha was sent to Wadi al-Qura Fatimah bint Rabiah, the queen of that area.

–          Fatimah had previously attacked a caravan led by Zaid and had succeeded in plundering its wealth.

–          She was known to be the most protected woman in Arabia, as she hung fifty swords of her close relatives in her home.

–          Fatimah was equally renowned for showing open hostility to Islam.

–           She was killed in a battle against these Muslims in the month of Ramadan.

Opening of Makkah 8 AH

–          The Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam set out with an army from Makkkah to Madinah.

–           The city of Makkah was conquered without a battle, on 20 Ramadan.

–           This was one of the most important dates in Islamic history for after it, Islam was firmly entrenched in the Arabian Peninsula.

–          smashing the idols of Makkah,

–          detachments were sent to the other major centres of polytheism and al-Lat, Manat and Suwa, some of the greatest idols of Arabia, were destroyed

The Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, passed through approximately nine Ramadans after the Hijrah. They were filled with decisive events and left us a shining example of sacrifice and submission to Allah.

Yemen 10 AH

–          Ali ibn abu talib and Khalid bin walid went to Yemen to spread Islam, all the tribe of Hamadan  on hearing Prophet Muhammad’s letter embraced Islam

13 AH Khilafah of Abu Bakr

–           Persians fought against Muslims. Gathered in Al Buwayb in Iraq. Persian leader killed. Two further successful attacks.

31 AH Nubians

–           Broke peace treaty. Muslims (Uthmaan) fought against Nubians in Egypt with an army of 20000, new treaty was signed which enabled spread of Islam in Eastern Africa

53 AH Rhodes Island

–           Liberated by Muslims from Romans who had attacked.

–           Became a base for Islamic navy, and as a result of its strategic position helped in conquest of Constantinople.

582 AH Salah ud Din victory against crusaders.
What can we learn?

– A month of striving, they continued to strive to implement Islam in all areas of their life during Ramadan.

– This included dawah, work within in their community, jihad, taking opportunities that came their way. They wouldn’t stop doing these things and only focus on their selves and individual ibadah because it was Ramadan

 Drew from the blessings of Ramadan to gain victory.

– The Muslims knew since the duty of fasting was prescribed upon them, that if they behaved sincerely with devotion, He would grant them decisive victories beyond imagination.

-If a Muslim fights against his desires succeeds in defeating his instincts sincerely by the intention of pleasing God, it would be then logical that he would vanquish his enemy by the will of God

– Knew the importance of developing sabr through fasting.

: “… if there are twenty amongst you, patient and persevering, they will vanquish two hundred. If they are a hundred, they will vanquish a thousand of the unbelievers: for these are a people without understanding.” (8:65)

The month of Ramadan in the time of the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam. It was a time of purification, enjoining the good, forbidding the evil and striving hard with one’s life and wealth. After the death of the Prophet, sallallahu `alaihi wa sallam, Muslims carried on this tradition and Allah used the true believers to affect the course of history

Ramadan is a time of great trials and crucial events

What do we do today?

–          Misconceptions about fasting and the activities of a fasting person.

–          We go into a state of semi-hibernation, spending most time in bed or resting.

–          Unnatural sleep = lazy, dull-witted and often cranky.

What should we do?

Ramadan is actually a time of increased activity.

The believer, now lightened of the burdens of constant eating and drinking, should be more willing to strive and struggle for Allah.

–          Like the sahabah we should use the blessings or Ramadan to help us in our struggle to implement Islam in to all areas of our lives.

–          Many of us get angry and irritable in Ramadan and expect people to understand.

–          Expecting people to change for you because you are fasting, is not expecting reward from Allah, reward from people.

–          The companions fought major battles in Ramadan shows that Ramadan is not a month of laziness.

–          The companions became extra patience to achieve reward, these jihad required sabr and extra effort.

–          Learn how to control your temper and control your tongue.

–          Who are your friends? Nothing destroys your month of Ramadan and your life like an evil mate.

–          Try to bring closer to you friends who remind you of Allah SWT.

–          Feel the pain of the Ummah, what our companions went through, and what they are going through today, motivate you to worship Allah and allow you to think clearly how to serve Allah in the year to come.

–           The Ummah needs you. We are responsible for them. Jihad with hand, but also with tongue, with money. Reward multiplied.

–          Make dua Allah preserves you from plot of shaytan from man and jin.

–          Stay away from extravagance even if it is halal.

Our Victory

–          Our Victory in Ramadan is we learn how to patiently persevere. Then as Allah promises in the above verse, victory will come to us.

–          In this month we do something which requires extreme will power and dedication, and would be unthinkable to most of us the rest of the year.

–          Makes us realise what we are capable of.

–          Makes us understand we do not have to be slaves to our nafs, but are able to have victory over our nafs.

 

Reality is not what you eat and what time. It is what you learn and what you gain from Ramadan.

–          If we really want to make a change become victorious in month of Ramadan we need to take that plan after Ramadan.

The sign that Ramadan is accepted from you is that Allah makes you a better person in Ramadan. Even Just one trait.

 Allah loves that which is small and constant.

This is what makes you successful and victorious in Ramadan.

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Why Attend?

As well as the opportunity to support our great cause and improve the community which you live in, attending this event will inshaAllah have a beneficial impact on YOU!

Our speakers are inspiring and motivating, listening to their talsk as we verge in to the last ten nights of Ramadan will a way to invigorate yourself, boost your iman and increase your ilm.

The subject of Sulaiman Ghani’s lecture will be the hadith;

Abu Musa (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah  said, “The relationship of the believer with another believer is like (the bricks of) a building, each strengthens the other.”

He  illustrated this by interlacing the fingers of both his hands. [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

Let us together learn how to follow the footsteps of the pious predecessors. How to create the relationships between believers that is commanded by Our Prophet SAS. Our neighbours have rights over us. Let us learn how to fulfill these rights according to the sunnah.